Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Why You Sound Like Your Mum When You Lose It (And How to Finally Stop)

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 5 Episode 188

Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.

0:00 | 32:15

Send us Fan Mail

You swore you would never sound like your mum. And then one day her exact words came out of your mouth. And you stood there wondering what just happened.

In this episode of the Zen Supermom podcast, Alena explains exactly why this happens, what is going on in your nervous system in that moment, and what it actually takes to stop it permanently.

What you will learn in this episode:

  • Why you sound like your mum when you lose it even though you promised yourself you never would
  • Why the pattern goes much deeper than simply copying what your parents did
  • What is actually happening in your nervous system in the moment your parents' words come out of your mouth
  • The deep fear of not feeling safe that is underneath every single mummy tantrum
  • Why knowing where the pattern comes from is not enough to stop it happening again
  • Why reading more parenting books and asking ChatGPT more questions will never fix this
  • Why your busy busy busy coping pattern is actually keeping you stuck
  • How long it actually takes to rewire the generational pattern and why waiting is costing your kids more than you realize
  • What unconditional love actually looks like in practice when your child is at their most difficult

Next step: join Alena live in the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass

Apply to be coached live on the podcast: https://form.jotform.com/261413211817347

Free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass
Website: alenagomesrodrigues.com
Instagram: @alenagomesrodrigues
Facebook Community:
https://www.facebook.com/ZenSupermom
Book — I Yelled I Cried I Healed:
https://www.amazon.com/Yelled-Cried-Healed-Supermom-Tantrums-ebook/dp/B0FNS4QRNC

Topics: generational trauma parenting, why do I sound like my mum, fight or flight parenting, nervous system parenting, mommy tantrum, stop yelling at kids, how to rewire generational patterns, unconditional love, calm parenting, hyperachiever mom burnout, zen supermom podcast.



Support the show

Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).

I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.

My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.

🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass

📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)

More about me & my work:
 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com


Music by ...