Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Ep 186: Why You Cannot Enjoy Holidays With Your Kids (And It Has Nothing to Do With the Stress)

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 5 Episode 186

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You planned the entire summer vacation. Great place to stay. Fun activities. Delicious food. You spent the money, gave up sleep, and organized every detail so your family could have an amazing time and memories.

In this episode of the Zen Supermom podcast, Alena Gomes Rodrigues explains why moms who cannot enjoy holidays with their kids are not dealing with planning stress or a kid’s behavior problem. They are dealing with a generational pattern that was wired in their nervous system long before their children were born.

What you will learn in this episode:

  • Why you cannot enjoy holidays with your kids and why stress and planning have nothing to do with it
  • What is actually happening in your nervous system when you feel helpless and resentful on holiday
  • How Alena realized she was re-enacting her own mother's exact holiday patterns without knowing it
  • The generational belief that tells women it is selfish to enjoy yourself while others are not yet happy
  • Why the people pleaser and the resentful martyr are two sides of the same wound
  • How to start catching the inner dialogue that is running your holidays on autopilot
  • Why this is actually good news and how one internal shift changes the whole experience

Alena is also opening coaching spots on the podcast. Apply to be coached live here: https://form.jotform.com/261413211817347

Next step: join Alena live in the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass before summer: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass

Free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass Website: alenagomesrodrigues.com Instagram: @alenagomesrodrigues Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/ZenSupermom Book — I Yelled I Cried I Healed: https://www.amazon.com/Yelled-Cried-Healed-Supermom-Tantrums-ebook/dp/B0FNS4QRNC

Topics: holiday stress for moms, mom burnout on vacation, people pleasing mom, generational trauma parenting, why can't I enjoy holidays, mom resentment, self worth for moms, rewire generational patterns, mommy tantrum, zen supermom podcast.

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Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).

I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.

My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.

🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass

📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
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More about me & my work:
 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com


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