Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 179: Why Can’t I Calm Down Even When I Know Better? (Experiential episode)
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Why can’t you calm down even when you know better?
You’ve read the parenting books.
Learned the scripts.
You know your child’s nervous system is wired to yours.
You know yelling isn’t the answer.
And yet… when your child says no, moves too slowly, ignores you, or pushes one more button, your body takes over.
You snap.
You yell.
You lose access to everything you “know.”
So what’s missing?
In this episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast, we explore why information and good intentions are not enough - and why the real shift has to happen in the body, not just in the brain.
This episode is more experiential than usual.
We talk about:
- why your smart brain disappears when you’re triggered
- why your body doesn’t respond to logic in those moments
- why positive thinking and willpower often fail under pressure
- what it means to create a “pocket of peace” before things go sideways
- how to start practicing calm as a state you can access — not just understand
- and why this matters so much if you want to become the safe, grounded parent your child’s nervous system can learn from
If you’ve ever thought:
“I know better… so why can’t I calm down?”
This episode is for you.
If you want to go deeper, start with the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass here
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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