Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 174: Why Knowing Why You Yell Still Doesn’t Stop the Yelling
You’ve read the books.
Taken the courses.
Reflected on your childhood.
Maybe even done therapy.
You know why you yell.
And yet…
when it’s Monday morning, you’re late, your kids aren’t listening, and the pressure hits,
you still lose control.
This episode explains why knowing why you yell is not enough to stop the yelling - and why awareness alone collapses exactly when it matters most.
We talk about:
- why insight and information disappear under stress
- why your logical brain checks out in “go time” moments
- why therapy and self-reflection can feel relieving but not stabilizing
- why calm doesn’t come from understanding, but from something else entirely
- why this pattern didn’t start with you - and why that matters for your kids
This is not another “how to stop yelling” episode.
There are no scripts, tips, or techniques to memorize.
It’s an orientation to help you stop blaming yourself and stop chasing the wrong solution.
If you’ve ever thought:
“I know what’s going on… so why can’t I control myself?”
This episode is for you.
Mommy Tantrum Video (23-min clarity orientation): LINK
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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