Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Ep 174: Why Knowing Why You Yell Still Doesn’t Stop the Yelling

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 4 Episode 174

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You’ve read the books.
Taken the courses.
Reflected on your childhood.
Maybe even done therapy.

You know why you yell.

And yet…
when it’s Monday morning, you’re late, your kids aren’t listening, and the pressure hits,
you still lose control.

This episode explains why knowing why you yell is not enough to stop the yelling - and why awareness alone collapses exactly when it matters most.

We talk about:

  • why insight and information disappear under stress
  • why your logical brain checks out in “go time” moments
  • why therapy and self-reflection can feel relieving but not stabilizing
  • why calm doesn’t come from understanding, but from something else entirely
  • why this pattern didn’t start with you - and why that matters for your kids


This is not another “how to stop yelling” episode.
There are no scripts, tips, or techniques to memorize.

It’s an orientation to help you stop blaming yourself and stop chasing the wrong solution.

 If you’ve ever thought:
“I know what’s going on… so why can’t I control myself?”
This episode is for you.



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