Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 173: She Looked Calm on the Outside but Was Exploding Inside: Jen’s Story of Rage, Shutdown, and Healing
Jen was not the mom who yelled all the time.
She was the mom who held it together.
Who stayed composed.
Who looked calm.
Who swallowed the rage until it turned into shutdown, resentment, and emotional distance.
From the outside, everything looked fine.
Inside, her nervous system was on fire.
In this episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast, Jen shares what happened when she realized that not yelling does not automatically mean emotional safety. She opens up about the hidden patterns underneath her reactions, the people pleasing, the freeze response, and the generational conditioning that taught her to disappear instead of express.
This conversation is for moms who:
- Rarely yell but feel emotionally disconnected or numb
- Shut down when things get overwhelming
- Struggle to set boundaries without guilt
- Feel pressure to be the calm one at all costs
- Wonder why therapy and insight helped them understand but not change
Inside this episode, you will hear:
- Why emotional shutdown is just as important to heal as yelling
- How freeze and people pleasing are nervous system survival responses
- Why calm on the outside does not equal safety on the inside
- How Jen learned to stay present without suppressing herself
- What changed in her parenting once her nervous system felt safe
This is not about becoming a softer mom.
It is about becoming a regulated one.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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