Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 169: “I Don’t Need More Parenting Tips. I Need the Tools!” How to Stop Yelling Without More Books
You’ve read the books. You know child psychology. You understand that your kids are supposed to test boundaries, move at their own pace, have big emotions… and most of the time you are the calm, patient mom.
Until you’re tired. Rushed. Overwhelmed. Hungry. Late for school again.
And then you yell. Just like your mom yelled at you – even though you promised yourself you’d be different. You keep thinking:
“I don’t need more theory. I just need the tools!”
In this episode of the Zen Superman Podcast, I break down why more information is not the answer – and what “tools” actually mean when it comes to stopping mommy tantrums for good.
We talk about:
- Why your logical, super‑educated brain “checks out” when you’re triggered
- How your unhealed inner child hijacks your body and reactions in seconds
- The concept of “1,000 paper cuts” generational developmental trauma – even if you had a “good” childhood
- Why classic therapies and more parenting courses often don’t touch this pattern
- The 2 pillars you really need instead:
- Healing your inner child (so she stops taking over)
- Mental Fitness: rewiring your autopilot so you don’t repeat how your parents handled stress
- What changes when you build a healthy blueprint of unconditional love + boundaries
- Why “I’ll fix it later when they’re older” is one of the most expensive lies we tell ourselves as moms
If you’re the mom who says:
- “I know what I should do, but in the moment I just lose it.”
- “I’m terrified I’m becoming my mom – and my kids will sit in therapy because of me.”
- “I’ve done all the parenting courses, but I still don’t have the tools that actually work under pressure…”
…this episode was recorded for you.
Listen now and start breaking the generational cycle – without trying to be a perfect, always‑nice mom.
#gentleparenting #consciousparenting #momanger #traumahealing #mommytantrums #stopyelling #parentingpodcast
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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