Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Ep 169: “I Don’t Need More Parenting Tips. I Need the Tools!” How to Stop Yelling Without More Books

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 4 Episode 169

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You’ve read the books. You know child psychology. You understand that your kids are supposed to test boundaries, move at their own pace, have big emotions… and most of the time you are the calm, patient mom.

Until you’re tired. Rushed. Overwhelmed. Hungry. Late for school again.

And then you yell. Just like your mom yelled at you – even though you promised yourself you’d be different. You keep thinking:

“I don’t need more theory. I just need the tools!”

In this episode of the Zen Superman Podcast, I break down why more information is not the answer – and what “tools” actually mean when it comes to stopping mommy tantrums for good.

We talk about:

  • Why your logical, super‑educated brain “checks out” when you’re triggered
  • How your unhealed inner child hijacks your body and reactions in seconds
  • The concept of “1,000 paper cuts” generational developmental trauma – even if you had a “good” childhood
  • Why classic therapies and more parenting courses often don’t touch this pattern
  • The 2 pillars you really need instead:
    • Healing your inner child (so she stops taking over)
    • Mental Fitness: rewiring your autopilot so you don’t repeat how your parents handled stress
  • What changes when you build a healthy blueprint of unconditional love + boundaries
  • Why “I’ll fix it later when they’re older” is one of the most expensive lies we tell ourselves as moms


If you’re the mom who says:

  • “I know what I should do, but in the moment I just lose it.”
  • “I’m terrified I’m becoming my mom – and my kids will sit in therapy because of me.”
  • “I’ve done all the parenting courses, but I still don’t have the tools that actually work under pressure…”

…this episode was recorded for you.

 Listen now and start breaking the generational cycle – without trying to be a perfect, always‑nice mom.


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About the Author:

Alena Gomes Rodrigues is a mommy tantrum specialist and the founder of the Zen Supermom method.


She's definitely NOT a supermom.

But through her own journey as a recovering perfectionist, hyper-achiever, and a 'Momzilla', she discovered the most effective strategy and tools to help busy moms stop yelling at their kids and set & keap healthy boundaries so that they stay calm, at peace, and happy no matter how stressful their life gets.

Want to know HOW? And WHY you can't stop yelling/stressing?

Get the new Yelling Breakthrough here.


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