Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 168: “It’s My Responsibility to Make Everyone Happy” - Healing the Generational Pattern That Turns Your Strength Into Pain
Have you ever told yourself,
“It’s my responsibility to make everyone happy”?
If so, this episode is for you.
Because that sentence isn’t your personality.
It’s not your “strength.”
And it’s definitely not your purpose.
It’s a generational trauma pattern that turned your empathy into over-responsibility…
your intuition into hypervigilance…
and your caring nature into exhaustion.
In this episode, we go deep into the truth behind this pattern:
Why you feel responsible for everyone’s emotions Why you’re pulled to help people who don’t want help Why your kindness sometimes gets rejected or resented Why you can see other people’s patterns… but can’t stop yours And how to finally break free - without becoming “cold” or “selfish”
You’ll hear:
Why high-achieving, self-aware, ultra-sensitive women fall into this trap How childhood roles (parentification, emotional caretaking, walking on eggshells) shape adult behavior Why knowledge is not enough to stop the cycle The moment your helping turns into proving, or saving, or trying to earn worth And the exact place where healing must begin
If you’ve ever felt drained, unseen, unappreciated, or resentful despite your big heart and good intentions - this episode will hit home.
This isn’t about stopping your empathy.
It’s about rewiring the pattern that uses your gifts against you.
Listen/watch now and learn how to turn your sensitivity back into your superpower - without sacrificing yourself.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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