Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Ep 164: Why Even the Best Childhoods Create Reactive Parents

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 4 Episode 164

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Parenting techniques didn’t fail us, they broke us.

Even moms with “happy childhoods,” therapy degrees, or calm voices can still find themselves yelling, shutting down, or people-pleasing. Why? Because most parenting methods focus on behavior, not the root: unhealed generational developmental trauma.

In this raw and eye-opening episode, Alena Gomes Rodrigues, creator of Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning (IDTR) and author of I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed, explains why even the most well-intentioned parents unconsciously pass on emotional wounds and how healing your nervous system changes everything. In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • Why CBT and parenting scripts don’t rewire emotional patterns
  • How “good childhoods” can still create people-pleasing, overachieving moms
  • The hidden trauma psychologists aren’t trained to recognize
  • Why stress, ADHD, or burnout aren’t the real reason for yelling
  • How IDTR helps moms create emotional safety for their children without perfectionism

This is your invitation to stop parenting from trauma and start healing with compassion, clarity, and confidence.

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About the Author:

Hi, I’m Alena, also known as the Mommy Tantrum Specialist and founder of the Zen Supermom program. Once upon a time, I was the mom yelling at her daughter before breakfast and crying behind a closed door before lunch. Now I help overwhelmed moms uncover and heal the hidden roots of their yelling, so they can lead their families with peace and clarity.

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