Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 164: Why Even the Best Childhoods Create Reactive Parents
Parenting techniques didn’t fail us, they broke us.
Even moms with “happy childhoods,” therapy degrees, or calm voices can still find themselves yelling, shutting down, or people-pleasing. Why? Because most parenting methods focus on behavior, not the root: unhealed generational developmental trauma.
In this raw and eye-opening episode, Alena Gomes Rodrigues, creator of Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning (IDTR) and author of I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed, explains why even the most well-intentioned parents unconsciously pass on emotional wounds and how healing your nervous system changes everything. In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why CBT and parenting scripts don’t rewire emotional patterns
- How “good childhoods” can still create people-pleasing, overachieving moms
- The hidden trauma psychologists aren’t trained to recognize
- Why stress, ADHD, or burnout aren’t the real reason for yelling
- How IDTR helps moms create emotional safety for their children without perfectionism
This is your invitation to stop parenting from trauma and start healing with compassion, clarity, and confidence.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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