Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 160: How Therapy Didn’t Help — But Monika Finally Stopped Yelling at Her Daughter
What happens when therapy doesn’t help you stop yelling — but something else does?
This week’s Zen Supermom Podcast shares Monika’s journey. As an expatriate mom of a toddler, she often lost control of her emotions. When her daughter kicked or hit, Monika reacted with shouting, guilt, and frustration. Therapy didn’t help her break the cycle, and she feared she was passing on the same patterns she grew up with.
Everything shifted when Monika discovered Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning (IDTR) — Alena’s unique method that combines trauma healing with mental fitness to rewire the nervous system at the root. Monika learned how to stay grounded, set safe boundaries, and stop passing emotional baggage onto her daughter.
Her transformation didn’t stop at home. She trained as a trauma specialist, then became one of the first Zen Supermom coaches certified in IDTR. Now she helps other moms heal the same cycles she once struggled with.
In this episode you will hear:
- Why therapy alone couldn’t stop her yelling
- How IDTR helped her break generational trauma patterns
- The exact tools she uses to stay calm and grounded with her daughter
- Why boundaries are loving, not harsh — and how to set them without guilt
- How Monika turned her pain into purpose and joined the Zen Supermom coaching team
This story is for moms who want to stop yelling, set healthy boundaries, and raise emotionally resilient kids — without passing on trauma. Watch or listen now to hear how Monika transformed her life and her parenting with IDTR.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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