Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 157: If Trying Harder Worked, You’d Be Calm by Now
You’ve tried to stop yelling. You know what to do. So why does it still happen?
If trying harder was the answer, you’d already be a Zen master by now.
In this episode, I break down why willpower, discipline, and even brain science aren’t enough to stop the yelling—and what actually works instead.
You’ll hear the story of a neuroscientist mom who knew exactly how the stress response worked… and still lost it with her daughter. Because yelling isn’t about knowing better. It’s about what’s been running underneath for decades.
You’ll learn: Why calm parenting isn’t about “trying harder” What hidden trauma patterns get triggered when kids don’t listen How to shift your mornings without scripts or guilt A powerful story of generational healing—where the child now models emotional safety
This isn’t another parenting pep talk. It’s a wake-up call.
Not to push harder—but to finally stop repeating the patterns that were never yours to carry.
Hit play and let’s break the cycle—together.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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