Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Ep 155: “I Had a Happy Childhood—So Why Was I So Angry?” Martina’s Story of Breaking the Cycle

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 4 Episode 155

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Martina is a loving mom of three, living abroad with no support network.
She had a “happy childhood.” A caring mom. No big trauma.
So why did she keep yelling at her kids?
Why did every small mess trigger a screaming match?
And why couldn’t she stop—even though she hated how it felt?

In this episode, Martina shares how things spiraled from gentle parenting intentions… to guilt, burnout, and near-daily explosions.
She tried the parenting scripts. The podcasts. The logic. Nothing stuck.

 In her words:
“I thought I needed more patience. But I needed to heal what was buried underneath.” In this conversation, we explore:

  • Why moms with “no trauma” still snap—and what’s really going on
  • The invisible pain of not feeling good enough, even with a good upbringing
  • How she stopped yelling at her kids—and made peace with her own mom, too
  • What changed when she found tools that actually rewired her stress response

Her joy is real. Her story is powerful.
And her message is clear: You don’t need to suffer just because life is loud.

 Listen or watch now—and share this with a mom who thinks she “should have it together by now.

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Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).

I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.

My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.

🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session

📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)

More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com


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