Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 150: Why Gentle Parenting Triggers You: The Generational Trauma No One Talks About
Are you exhausted from trying gentle parenting techniques that just don't stick? If you've read all the books, learned the scripts, but still find yourself yelling at your kids when you're stressed or running late, this episode is for you.
In this raw and honest conversation, I break down the 3 most common reasons why gentle parenting fails - and spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with your kids or needing better techniques.
In this episode, you'll discover:
- Why you can't execute gentle parenting scripts when you're triggered (and what to focus on instead)
- The difference between healthy boundaries and punishment - and why most of us never learned this
- How generational trauma shows up in your parenting moments and keeps you stuck in old patterns
- Why healing your own childhood wounds is the key to becoming the calm, grounded parent you want to be
This episode is perfect for you if:
- You believe in connection-based parenting but struggle to stay calm when your kids push your buttons
- You find yourself turning into your own parents when stressed, even though you swore you'd do things differently
- You're tired of feeling guilty about yelling and want to break the cycle for good
Remember: You're an amazing mom. It's not your fault that gentle parenting hasn't worked yet - you just need to start in the right place. And that place is YOU.
Ready to heal your generational trauma and become the parent you've always wanted to be? This episode will show you exactly where to start.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Session
A short orientation to understand what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Session
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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